Top Five Friday

Where does your vested interest lie?  Financially or not. It’s a known fact that when you are vested in something and have a stake in gains or losses you naturally want the best outcome.  You take pride in it, are passionate about it, and willing to give what it takes to succeed. Find that special something that will give you back the charisma you’ve been looking for; the spark that will get you out of the bed in the mornings; that something that will make it all worth your while.

 Today’s Top Five Friday topic:  Count me in

. join a book club

: take a cooking class

:. exercise

:: volunteer

::. take a chance

Published in: on April 16, 2011 at 12:00 am  Leave a Comment  



Countdown to Shutdown

2011 Federal Government Furlough?

While the battle between Senate Democrats and House Republicans ensues over agreement of the FY 2011 budget appropriations, the brunt of the quarrelsome political parties is about to be felt by hundreds of thousands of federal employees, myself included.  We are already seven months into the current fiscal year and working under the sixth Continuing Resolution through April 8, 2011.  There are several issues at hand that seem to have the political party at an impasse with no end in sight.  If the two sides don’t finalize negotiations or perhaps pass another temporary continuing resolution to keep the government operating, the shutdown of most of the government will begin at midnight. 


There’s nothing worse it seems than messing with a man’s family, his food, or especially his money.  What comes to mind for me are some of my all time favorite quotes from Big Worm, from the movie Friday, Ray Gibson, from the movie Life, and Rod Tidwell, from the movie Jerry Maguire.   

Today’s Top Five Friday:  Government –vs- The People

You got my money?

I had to warn you too many times about my money, Smokey. You see, it’s the principal. There’s principalities in the whole thing.

Playing with my money is like playing with my emotions, Smokey

Nobody take no cornbread from me. You f… around with me, there’s gonna be consequences and repercussions.

It’s a very personal, a very important thing. Hell, it’s a family motto. SHOW! ME! THE! MONEY!

Published in: on April 9, 2011 at 12:03 am  Comments (1)  
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Top Five Friday

Women’s History Month

5 Great Internet Finds for Empowering Women

Today’s Top Five Friday topic: Top Women’s Organizations

Healthy Women

When it comes to health, smart choices start with informed women. HealthyWomen provides women with easy-to-access information about health-related issues. Best of all, what you’ll find is trustworthy material that’s unlike anything on other sites. The award-winning site has even been recommended as a go-to by Doctor Oz!

Step Up Women’s Network –

“Simply stated, Step Up connects you to the professional women you need and the underserved teen girls who need you.”

Fatigues to Fabulous

National program designed to fit the needs of female veterans, focusing on five areas: education, jobs, healthcare, family support and finance.


Nest gives women in underprivileged countries a chance to start their own businesses by providing small loans and a business curriculum. But unlike your usual loans, Nest loan recipients “repay” the company with their crafts and finished products—indeed different than your everyday “microfinance” organization!


From performances and films (you may be familiar with The Vagina Monologues), to local campaigns and large-scale benefits, V-Day constantly generates wide-spread awareness of violence against women and girls. The corporation, started by Eve Ensler, works with grassroots, national and international organizations to provide women with shelter and support in 130 countries across the globe.


Published in: on March 25, 2011 at 6:18 pm  Comments (1)  
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It sure may not feel like it some days; but you are WINNING!  You are winning at the game of life.  You woke up this morning, right?  Well, there you have it.  WINNING!  This is the pep talk I’ve had to give to myself lately.  Let me tell you, these past few weeks for me have been hard.  I mean you name it, I’ve felt picked on, beat down, down trodden, misused and abused.  With hardly any minute in between to catch my breath.  Could I have at least been spared some protective head gear, knee pads, or chin guards.  Nope, nada.  That’s just how life is sometimes.  It chews you up and spits you out, hopefully leaving you with a valuable lesson learned or testimony to share.  So, I guess that’s where I am today, bandaged and bruised, but not broken!  Still, WINNING!

Today’s Top Five Friday topic:  How I know I’m Winning!

 .    I am a sinner; saved by God’s grace

 :    I’m still standing

 :.   I love who I am

 ::   I know that everyday restarts the clock for second chances

 ::.  I am on this earth for a purpose

Yes, it’s tough.  No one said it would be easy.  The question isn’t “Why me?”, but …“Why NOT me?” 

Recognize drama as life’s little distractions trying to sit you out of the game.

[Check out other Top Five Friday.  You may be interested in reading Purposeful Life]

Published in: on March 18, 2011 at 1:39 pm  Comments (1)  
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Top Five Friday

O Spring, Spring! wherefore art thou Spring? 

Deny thy mother nature and refuse thy cold days of winter; Or, if thou wilt not, be but Spring soon my love, And I’ll no longer be without your warmth against my skin.

˜My Shakespearian version of Romeo and Juliet˜

 Today’s Top Five Friday Topic: What I love about Spring

  .  prolonged days of sundrenched light

 :  strappy sundresses,  flip flops, and painted toes

:.  endless colors of budding flowers, and trailing hanging baskets

::  live jazz, a picnic basket, and a bottle of wine

::. the promise of knowing that Summer is only a few months away

What are your top five reasons you can’t wait ’til Spring arrives?

By the way, don’t forget daylight savings time this weekend.  Be sure to set your clocks ahead one hour before going to bed on Saturday night.  Oh, but another sign that Spring is near!

[Photo credit: Thomas Blackshear (Ebony Vision)]

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[If you like humor, you may be interested in reading For Your Eyes and Ears Only]

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My Birthday treat. um, yum!

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Grown Folks Business


In your relationships are you the talker or a listener? Do you feel the need to be in control all the time, or is it okay with you to let your partner take charge? The reason I’m asking is because a recent conversation with my husband spawned the comment: 

 Most women do not listen to their man! Whether it be in the bedroom -OR- the boardroom.

Is this true? Or do you LISTEN within reason? I know the first thing most of you will say is that it all depends on what it is. Because of course, nobody wants to feel like your significant other is your ‘Daddy’, or you’re being told what to do either. 

Even more interesting is the fact that when a woman does ask her spouse for his opinion or advice about something she will generally follow-up with the same question to a close girlfriend or confidant.  And then depending on the outcome of that extended conversation, decide what she should do. Why is that? 

On the subject of  listening in the bedroom; that’s a whole other situation in itself.  Both men and women have an equal role to play in satisfying the needs of each other.  I’m sure you’ve heard the saying:

 What you won’t do, another women will.  

So, are you open and willing to exlore new experiences with your partner that will arouse and enhance your love life?  Or are you stuck in the same old routine of things?

What I wonder is if the reason sometimes women get the – I’m gonna do what I want to attitude, has anything to do with women devaluing the man in a relationship.  Especially nowadays that most families are a two-income household with women sometimes earning just as much if not more than their spouses. Could these all be contributing factors to the woman’s belief that she knows best?

What’s your take on all of this sistahs? Do you agree with my husband’s assumption that most women do not listen to their man? Or do you believe this is just another attempt for the man to have the upper hand in the relationship?

Published in: on February 10, 2011 at 9:31 am  Comments (1)  
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As we wind down our week of nurturing ourselves I want to remind you not to forget to continue finding ways to give yourself some “me time”. Try and make it a part of your weekly routine; and remember even the simplest things count. One of the ways that I see you are already doing this for yourself is by reading and enjoying the articles on Sista Space. The motivators, words of inspiration, and positive affirmations are here not only to encourage you and me, but allows us to connect with others who share the same desires for personal growth and wellness.

So, was I ever excited when I came across the article “It’s time for Natural Pampering” by D.Rene, fellow blogger at Grown Up For Real.  D.Rene shared a great article from WebMD 10 Ways to Pamper Yourself Naturally that offers advice on at-home spa treatments using everyday items we usually already have in our pantries or refrigerators.

Here are just a few:

1. Avocado mask. My kids think this is hilarious, but after you eat an avocado, rub the skin lightly against your face. Leave the leftover avocado bits on for skin for about ten minutes and then rinse.

2. Sugar scrub. A few years back, I used a sugar scrub at a friend’s house — it was amazing! But, when I found them in the store, I suffered a bit of sticker shock. It seemed like an easy enough product to make at home and it turns out it truly is. I found dozens of recipes on-line — the simplest is 1 cup sugar, ½ cup olive oil, and a few drops of essential oil (optional).

3. Regular rejuvenation. Mix 1 egg yolk, 1 tablespoon of honey, 1 tablespoon of plain yogurt, …  continue reading for more ideas: 10 Ways to Pamper Yourself Naturally

You’ll be surprised at what you find! Come back and share the spa treatments you lavished yourself in, or a few secret tips of your own home remedies for rest and relaxation.

AND, don’t forget to stop by Grown Up For Real, a blog about a woman’s realization that the ladder has to be climbed, the kids won’t raise themselves and relationships are hard work.

Published in: on February 3, 2011 at 4:21 pm  Comments (4)  
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Away With Words

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