The last day of the year will be a buzz with talk of the past year’s best of, hottest this, latest that. And even more than that, everybody and their momma will be vowing a commitment to some act of self-improvement for the upcoming year. The infamous New Year’s Resolution. Good intentions, that most often fall by the wayside only to be regarded as lists of would’ve, could’ve, should’ve. If you’re looking for a new way to approach your outlook on the new year, try this instead. Take a moment for some silent self-reflection on the past year and use where you are today to get where you want to be tomorrow.

Today’s Top Five topic:  ‘Silent’ Self-Reflections on the Year Twenty-Ten

In a notebook or journal:

   Name something you discovered about yourself this year.

:    Identify how the discovery changed you, your behavior, or your perception on life.

:.   Write about whether a goal was accomplished with this new found discovery.

::   List what things you will need to do to maintain the discovery long-term.

::.  Explain the lesson learned through your discovery experience.

What you have just created is a successful roadmap for realistic and attainable achievements. Continue this process throughout the new year and you will realize your true resolutions.

“I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” — Maya Angelou

Happy New Year!



Despite the contrived imagery of Christmas, not everyone shares the same sentiment of the holiday season.  There are many people who suffer silently during this time of the year from anxiety, stress, depression, and grief.  Social interactions with others can be very difficult and can lead to isolation.  Make this Christmas more meaningful by releasing the demands of the holiday and focusing on family, spirituality, and goodwill.  Rethink your beliefs about what you have to do and the consequences of not doing what you believe you must do.

 Don’t disregard the holiday blues as “bah, humbug”.  Acknowledge the needs of those around you and be the difference in someone else’s life.

 Today’s Top Five topic: Random Acts of Kindness

.   Do away with past traditions that cause hardship

:   Reminisce with family and friends on loved ones who have passed or those who are afar

:.  Inspire someone with your acts of kindness

::  Prepare an extra serving of your favorite dish to share with a family in need

::. Give the gift of service: volunteer your time or donate to a cause

Happy holidays to you and your families.  May you continue to be blessed with peace, prosperity, and good health.




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Baggage.  No, not the emotional baggage. The material possessions we acquire over time.  Although we all know emotion is usually wrapped up somewhere in all the mess that clutters our lives.  But, I don’t profess to be the expert on the matter, so I’ll leave that discussion up to you and your therapist.  I’m talking about the excessive amounts of clothes, shoes, household items, the junk drawer.  The things we carry from place to place and sometimes package for ourselves in neat little boxes all tied up in string, cause these are a few of our favorite things. (Sorry, it’s the holidays, I just couldn’t resist a plug to “The Sound of Music”) I call this the box of “What-ifs”.  Case in point, you fill in the blank: “I can’t throw that out, what if I _____ (lose weight, can’t find another one, need it one day, etc…)

 The reality is that “IF” you aren’t using something or wearing it on a weekly basis, you probably don’t need it.  You can’t move forward if you keep holding on to the past.  

 Today’s Top Five Topic:  It’s an emergency evacuation and you have 5 minutes to grab your most valuable possessions, what would it be?

 .   My purse, which would include

 :   cell phone

 :.  family photos

 ::  Kindle e-reader

 ::. medical/life insurance information

Don’t let the material drama in your life weigh you down.  Declare an end to the clutter today for a better tomorrow.



 I was invited to attend a church service two weeks ago in Hanover, Pennsylvania.  It was a Lutheran domination church with a predominantly white congregation.  I wasn’t sure what to expect, but I assumed that it wouldn’t be the traditional 2 ½ hour “Club Jesus” church service that I was accustomed to.  And it wasn’t. But you know what, I left that day, 1 hour and 15 minutes later mind you, with a clear message.  The Pastor spoke on “Time in a day”.  She broke down how we have 86,400 seconds in a 24 hour period each day.  She concluded with the average hours per day that a person spent sleeping, eating, sitting in traffic, household chores, leisure activities, and at work.  (Reference Bureau of Labor Statistics for 2009 data Whew, doesn’t sound like that leaves much more time for anything else now does it?  Well, according to the Pastor, we do have free time.  It’s how we waste it that makes all the difference.  

 Identify time wasters that prevent “You” from doing you and overcome procrastination, interruptions, and other unproductive behaviors.

 Today’s Top Five Topic: Time Management: Getting through the To-Do List

 .   Bake 3 dozen cookies for December 15th

    Send out Christmas Cards

:.  Take donations to Goodwill

::  Read “Becoming More Than A Good Bible Study Girl” by Lysa Terkeurst

::.  Laundry

 Busyness is a state of mind, not a fact. Put it on the To-Do List and get it done. How will you maximize your time? 



It’s been said that music can soothe the savage beast.  Music can be as comforting as a hot cup of cocoa on a cold winter’s day (Wind Beneath My Wings by Gerald & Eddie LeVert) or can incite enraged acts of chaos and defiance (F… Da Police by N.W.A).  It is through music that all barriers of gender, race, and culture can be torn down to promote healing, change, and awareness (We Are The World by Various Artists).  The melody of a song can lull you sweetly into the creation of a union (Here and Now by Luther Vandross) and bitterly to it’s demise (Papers by Usher).  For all of us there is that special song, that when played, will make you close your eyes and transcend back to a place in time. 

Music is where I find my personal anthem to stand for something, less I fall for anything. 

Today’s Top 5 Topic is:  That’s My Song

.   I Am Not My Hair by India Arie 

:   Alright by Ledisi

:.  Golden by Jill Scott

::   Superwoman by Alicia Keys

::.  Never Would Have Made It by  Marvin Sapp

 What groove speaks through your heart and soul?



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